Wish you very happy Birthday dear Angel
DIYA.
You are now a TEEN girl, till your
NineTEEN you remain TEEN.
Like many parents, we are also parenting
a TEEN for the first time. Thanks for that opportunity dear.
We are well read about adolescents, we
taught our adolescent students the changes and crisis which they undergo in
this transition period. We both had enough opportunity to address many parents
of adolescence in our career, be it behavioural issues, attitude, future career
or handling them. Most importantly we lived your age so we can get into your
shoes. Remember you still must go a long way to reach our age!
While having a piece of cake of your 13th
Birthday we both sat in the balcony to exchange those thoughts for a
prospective change in the parenting role.
We would like to share those thoughts
with you…………
Your teenage years are a time for
experimentation and self-discovery, cultivate and work more on your aptitude.
We know you are a good artist and you love music continue to do it. This will
give you self and social identity.
As you are a good reader you love books
keep that habit as your top priority. In this age, there may be many feelings thoughts
which you don’t feel like sharing with best buddies and more specifically with
parent’s book will help you to find ways to be resilient, assertive and
self-motivated.
One thing we both as a parent liked and
proud of you is your journal writing habit. Sometimes it’s written feedback
for us on our parenting and its effectiveness on you. It also helped us to get
into your real self and ideal self. Keep a journal for the
Your parents are the best role models
for you on letter writing which we shared with you about how we used to enjoy
writing letters and how your dad developed his handwriting skills and
imagination! We suggest you develop this habit since relationships being one of
your developmental characteristics. You can strengthen your relationship with
your friends and family members. Do not forget to write to your teachers who
are helping you to grow by sacrificing their time and life. Keep some unposted
letters to yourself to remember you in your later stage’s life.
Read newspaper and magazines to
understand the current affairs and happening in the society and world at large.
Don’t always subscribe only the magazines which talk about makeup clothing or
sex. Read about poverty, discrimination, bias etc. on what you can do to save
the world.
Just feeling empathy for others is not
what you are expected to you need to go one
step ahead in getting into action to help others who need it the most. Money
is not the solution for everything you must learn how to save money. There are
many people who need help to develop hope in their life. If you can bring a
smile in others and make a rainbow within glooms, you will give meaning to your
life.
This is an age where you like to be
independent but be thankful to everyone who helped you to learn in life. A well
thought out “THANK YOU” often leaves people feeling good perhaps there is a
moment you can reflect on. Gratitude will function as reciprocity which will
strengthen your relationships.
Though this is the last dialogue we had
in our conversation but its one thing which will help you to respect others
perspective. We don’t expect you to accept everything if, so you don’t grow but,
don’t forget to respect others point of view. 6 can be a 9 for the person who
stand the opposite side of it to be open to others’ viewpoints.
